I had a rare moment of fashion crisis this week. I was watching the television show Ugly Betty. I know, I know – kind of a girly show, but it’s one of those shows that so many people watch that it’s good to have a little knowledge about them. That way, if someone asks if Betty is dating Henry or Gio the Sandwich Guy or Matt the new guy from Y.E.T.I. is, I don’t say, why would any of them date her at all? She looks like someone’s bubbe. Saying this would make me politically incorrect. Saying Bubbe from Y.E.T.I. makes me look like a sweet guy with a wide cultural base.
You will want to become friends with him and open a good line of communication so you are able to talk to him easily. You can joke around with him in a way that is fun and shows you are in no way hurt by not being a couple anymore. Being his friend will put you in a different light from the position of being a couple and you may find that the two of you can talk in a more relaxed manner.
Like the commercial says, “Confidence is sexy!” Confident women are very appealing to men. Go back and become the woman he fell in love with. Remember those qualities he was most attracted to and let them shine through. Think back to the events that led to the break-up and learn from them.
These mature single ladies are not the type to adjust very easily. They have the money to look for better options. Try to be logical in what you tell her. Baseless conversation does not generally interest them. It is definitely prudent to prepare yourself before you venture out with her.
Shifty eyes – Even before my life as a scottsdale matchmaker coach, I always thought it was a little odd when people never made eye contact. Now that I have studied body language, I realize just how important it is to building a connection. I know that people can get nervous, but if you are with someone who just can’t make eye contact, there could be lots of reasons. Many people think shifty eyes means people are lying, which can be true. The one thing it does mean, however, is that they are not comfortable in their own skin. Something that is pretty important if you are looking to create something great.
Ensure that your profile pic has you smiling or at least looking cocky. Don’t take yourself too seriously, because women will think you’re a player at best, or desperate at worst. Have all your clothes on in your photographs.
Do not allow your teen to think it is okay for them to have sex, just because you have had the “talk” with them. Sexual relations has a place in relationships and is not appropriate for teens even though they will become highly tempted by it. Don’t sit back and allow sexual promiscuity to sneak up on your family. The consequence of that type of behavior can be life altering with things such as an STD or unplanned pregnancy. Be clear with your child about it, but don’t endorse it. Teens are not emotionally mature enough to handle the consequences that come along with sex.